There comes a point in your life when you realize:
Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
And who always will..
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future!
Time flies.. am completing my 40days of confinement today.. (hehhe, tk berapa confined pun :P) means another 4days to pamper myself, slow walking... before putting my feet down start running and dancing around with 1000 chores again.
I have been thinking a lot lately (seriously, reminder to other confinement mothers, don't do this at home& alone. Thinking too much during confinement period can lead to damaging post-natal stress!) while so-called pampering myself, lazying in bed or doing house chores at my own speed...
Thinking on how certain individuals affecting my life, self learning to appreciates more the importance of people around me and how family and friendships bond themselves during crucial times.
I am glad that, though I've been taking care of myself literally, juggling around adjusting with newborn needs while doing existing chores...
I am blessed with a wonderful hubby who understands just enough to gives me the space and room i need to manage things my way... no matter how slow i could be or how much mess i made along the way, his patience development amaze me after our wonderful 6years with 3 blessing boys ;). Thank you, I do love you hun!
I have wonderful nieces who is very thoughtful to volunteer themselves assisting me with my boys and house chores while I'm in labour and during the 1st two weeks of my confinement period. To lovely Farah and Ika, thank you so much for your assistance's.. Insya'allah auntie Ju will get back to you guys one day.. may Allay repays. I appreciates it so much when most of their colleague spends their semester breaks partying around with each other, they do sacrifices them just to be with us. It really touched me on how important family ties to them and i'm glad to have them around to be my niece-by-marriage. Please forgive me if during your stay, i did loose my temper and sense of humor sometimes, wishing it didn't hurt any of you guys. Thank you so much & i do love you nicey!
Though my parents were busy with their daily routines, and my mother's health condition doesn't allows her to spend much time with us, I'm glad that their not being around most of the time, teaches me to be strong and to learn managing my life and my own small family independently without relying much on others.
Unlike years ago, the elder generations woman have been taking care of their health consciously, and to be able taking care of their daughter/in-laws in confinement, and grand children is something to be expected.
this makes me realize how important for a woman to take a good care of our general health, or our future generations never really knows what confinement is all about.. the way i have experience it.
I am blessed with a beautiful friendships.. (though some were really sucks; &i'd rather trade them with money!) thank you, especially my forever buddy who always a call away to listen to me whining and complaining about everything. thank you 'FaraNur' for never hesitate to lend me some hands and ears (even when i call you during odd hours.. crying my heart out!) and even thoughtful to offer me to lend some cash when I'm most in need! thank you for understanding me babe... guess, I'd be lost is my own space without your friendship.. muahahaha! luv you!
I also learns very well that, somethings is easier said than done.. despite people buzzing around telling what to do and what not during confinement... little that they realize.. advices and words doesn't really helps much.
newborn mothers is always very fragile, physically and emotionally.. they need assistance and hands on help to minimize their burden struggling with everything before being able to adjust them.
Telling them just what to do or arguing on what they choose to do, usually will not help but to stir things worst making them more stressed. It does a lot better still to pray and to wish them luck than to discuss on experiences, superstitions, believes and traditions but leaving her to manage everything on her own without offering hands to share her burdens. i believe 'never two delivery was the same'. this attitude somehow, is a very selfish show-offs... without the empathy to slip in her shoes!
Thru thick and thin, Alhamdulillah my hubby and i have crawl successfully pass through my 3rd confinement. Experiencing taking care of my self and my newborn without much help and assistance. Doing things our own way at our very own pace, choosing to stick on to our decisions and points; to do it right the most sensible way we can manage on.
I admit, along the way... few hearts broke and feelings irritates upon our stubborn selves, simply couldn't care much.. as long as they are not meant to be around, folding sleeves assisting us with the painful 44days of not getting enough sleeps and body ache from thousands of chores or never answers our s.o.s when we needed most, I'm sorry we just gotto do what we gotto do; to ignore!
it's true that money is just as important as love when it comes to family and friends too. Without any, you meant almost nothing to them.. of course it doesn't applies to all.. but unlucky us, we were surrounded by many people bonding like ants and sugar. therefore, it is important to load our self packed with enough cash before relying any hands especially during emergencies (better still to take insurance policies!)
I would like to draw some credits for my hubby's loyal driver 'Darrick' who has been with us for 3years now, and the army pranita staffs - 'solehah, marina and lynn' for alternately taking orders on&offs assisting me during my almost upside-down 9months pregnancy and confinement periods, taking care of my kids and house chores. Thank you very much and i do treasure your assistance so much for without them it would be hard for me to manage.
Last but not least, to my blog readers... thank you all for the support, the prayers and most important.. your sincere friendship to listen to my hearts virtually (though some i have never met in my life).
love you all & enjoy reading ya!
